Meet Kai
I’m Kai.
Sex therapist, psychotherapist, and the person behind Polysoma. I created this practice because I believe everyone deserves a space where they can bring their whole self — including the parts they’ve never been able to say out loud.
Whatever brings you here — sexual concerns, intimacy challenges, trauma, the complexities of you, or the accumulated weight of life — you don’t have to face it alone.
This is not another counselling practice. my space exists because too many people have sat with shame, confusion, or pain in silence — because they couldn’t find a practitioner who could genuinely hold what they needed to bring.
I bring more than clinical expertise — specialised training and sitting closely with people’s experiences over the past years have shaped a depth of understanding that changes the quality of the work. You’ll feel it from the very first session. This is the kind of care that, in my experience, is rare to find.
My approach
I don’t do cookie-cutter therapy. My practice is integrative and trauma-informed — I work at a pace that feels right for you, with your consent, meeting you where you are in both mind and body. I am a safe and ethical practitioner — but I can’t promise you’ll feel it straight away. What I can promise is consistency, care, and a space where nothing will be pushed or rushed. Whatever trust develops, we build it together, slowly and on your terms. And when you’re ready, I’ll gently invite you to explore the patterns that might be keeping you stuck — as I often say, we go down many different rabbit holes, and along the way we put pieces of the puzzle together. Growth happens when we have enough room to try something new — and I’m here to help you find that balance.
My qualifications
Master of Counselling, Graduate Certificate in Sexology, Bachelor of Clinical Practice. Currently pursuing a Master of Science in Medicine (Sexual and Reproductive Health) at the University of Sydney.
- Professional registration — Australian Counselling Association.
- Member — Society of Australian Sexologists.
Ongoing professional development
Choosing a therapist is a significant decision. Behind this work is a deep and ongoing commitment to learning — across counselling, sex therapy, sexology, trauma practice and beyond — because the best care comes from practitioners who never stop growing.
Previous career
Before founding Polysoma, I spent years working on the frontline of emergency and crisis care, sitting with people in some of the most frightening and vulnerable moments of their lives. That work taught me what it means to stay present in the midst of overwhelm, to listen beneath the chaos, and to honour the ways bodies and nervous systems do their best to survive. Those experiences now shape the way I offer steadiness and care in the therapy room.
Recipient of the National Medal of Australia.
What I’ve lived through
I find deep joy in the natural world — particularly the ocean, whose vastness and rhythm offer me a profound sense of freedom and belonging. For me, spirituality lives and breathes within the world around us, not separate from it.
Like many people, I have my own history of growth through difficulty — of learning to reclaim strength and build genuine resilience. It was partly this path that led me to found Polysoma. I know that healing is rarely linear. It has its seasons, its setbacks, and its quiet breakthroughs. But it becomes more possible when you don’t have to face it alone.
My lived experience shapes how I work in ways that go beyond technique. I’ve done significant personal work — and I continue to do that work. Through my own somatic and embodied practice, I’ve learned to slow down and listen to what the body holds. I’ve learned to sit with the harder parts of being human with curiosity rather than judgement. I carry that understanding into the therapeutic space with care and presence.
“The therapist who has never sat in the client’s chair has only half the map.”
Much of what I bring into this work cannot be found in a curriculum. My approach is informed by leading voices in trauma, sexology and psychosexual therapy, alongside my own lived and clinical experience. My own somatic practice, years of reflection, and self-directed reading have given me an understanding that sits beneath and alongside my formal training.
That said, my experiences are not yours… I hold that distinction carefully. My personal history informs my sensitivity, but your experience, your needs and your goals are always at the centre.
On self-disclosure: I believe thoughtful, boundaried self-disclosure can be a meaningful part of genuine connection. At times I may share something relevant if it feels useful to our work. When I do, I ask only that you receive it in the spirit it is offered.
How it works
Click get started. Choose a day and time that suits you, complete your registration, and secure your session with payment.
Before we meet you’ll receive a services agreement and a set of personalised questionnaires to complete — helping us make the most of our time together from the very first session.
We begin the work — together, at your pace, with nothing rushed and nothing pushed. Just steady, careful progress toward where you want to be.