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A PLACE TO HEAL. GROW. RECOVER.

Adelaide – Psychotherapy & Counselling

Discover a safe, supportive environment to address trauma, pain, and sexual issues impacting your mind and body.

 

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Welcome to Polysoma

 

At Polysoma, you’re not just another person—and this is not another counselling practice. Envision a reimagined mind-body health sanctuary,

I create space for people to heal and work through complex concerns—and everybody is welcome.

I know life can be challenging: and I’m here to help you navigate the ups and downs, and overcome the difficult things life can throw at you.

Run by me, Kai, a professional psychotherapist and counsellor practising in the space of trauma-informed care, pain and sexual wellness. With a somatic background. I’ll work closely with you, providing support and therapies that are holistic, safe, and tailored to you.

My focus is helping you feel better in your body, so you can take back control, and discover a healthier, more authentic you.

 

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What to expect

I offer psychotherapy and counselling at my Adelaide practice, nestled in the heart of Goodwood at the GoodHub. I also provide virtual sessions, ensuring accessibility regardless of your global whereabouts.

Top 6 reasons to work with me:

Top 6 reasons to work with me:

  • Personalised, empathetic support for you.
  • Inclusive environment, where you’re welcomed without judgment.
  • A safe, warming space for you to focus on what matters.
  • I work with both body and mind.
  • Collaborative healing, supporting your unique journey.
  • Empowerment through choice, recognising your expertise in your own life.

+ Let’s make it a cheeky 8 reasons:

  • I am a highly qualified practitioner with lived experience, so I understand what you might be going through.
  • Australia’s foremost psychosexual somatic therapist specialises in the complex intersections of pain, trauma, and sexual concerns.
My services are perfect for people working through:

My services are perfect for people working through:

  • Managing all of life’s ups/downs and curveballs.
  • Single incident and complex trauma.
  • Navigating mental health challenges, including diagnosed mental health conditions.*
  • Any medical or health concerns.
  • Chronic and complex pain conditions.
  • Sexual, physical and emotional abuse, sexual assault, historical sexual abuse, and intimate partner violence.
  • Exploring, affirming diverse expressions of sexuality.
  • Trans, Gender Diverse, Non Binary (TGDNB) exploration, affirmative, supportive mental health care.
  • LGBTQIA+ well-being and support.
  • Navigating sexual desire.
  • Exploring recurring sexual themes.
  • Neurodivergent approaches to intimacy and sexuality.
  • Sexual compulsivity, hyperactivity and habitual sexual experiences.
  • Exploring atypical sexual experiences.
  • All genital concerns.
  • Orgasm concerns,
  • Sexual interest/arousal concerns,
  • Genito-pelvic pain/penetration concerns.
  • Ejaculation (early/delayed) and erectile concerns.
  • Substance/medication induced sexual problems.
  • Recovery from genital surgery.
  • Ageing, disability and sexuality.
  • Sexual tension and anxiety in the body.
  • Exploring shameful sexual experiences.
  • Adult sex education, embodied consent, increasing pleasure, sensitivity and arousal, alternatives to pleasure.
  • Creating a meaningful sex life.
  • Exploring diverse sexual relationships, polyamory and kinks.

*Unfortunately the wide spectrum of mental and behavioural disorders cannot be listed here.* Just know you will be heard and are included in my professional services. Please note if you do not have a diagnosis for a mental health condition and wish to seek one, I will make appropriate referrals for you.

Working with me can help you:

Working with me can help you:

  • Recognise issues you’re facing and how it’s impacting you.
  • Feel heard, validated and supported in your healing journey.
  • Explore your fears, stress and worries in a safe, non-judgemental environment.
  • Recover from trauma, pain and sexual concerns.
  • Become more resourceful.
  • Help exploring and finding your community or tribe.
  • Work through anxiety, tension, physical or emotional pain in your body.
  • Recognise unhelpful habits, distractions and blocks.
  • Create self-awareness and authenticity.
  • Be curious about yourself, your relationships and desires.
  • Work through painful lived experiences.
  • Feel embodied and empowered, creating deeper experiences with your body and mind.
  • Work out ways to cope with difficult situations, emotions and behaviours, and finding strategies to self-regulate, self-heal and self-soothe.
  • Learn mindfulness, relaxation, breath work.
  • Learn how to self care and nourish yourself.
  • Learn about sex education, consent, and becoming aware of your body.
  • Identifying and exploring sexual themes without shame.
  • Uncover and work with your inner strengths.
  • Discover your sexual and gender identity.
  • Learn more about your genitals.
  • How to manage genital pain, painful sexual experience using sexual devices such as Ohnut.
  • Learn pelvic floor and genital muscle-strengthening exercises.
  • Support and humanise your sexuality.
  • Learn about using devices such as Kiwi Vibrating Pelvic Massager and Ferticare penile medical vibrator, or other tools.
I’ll work with you to find what modalities feel right for you.

I’ll work with you to find what modalities feel right for you.

Everyone is different—and that means we all work through issues and heal in different ways. I’ll work with you to find what feels best for you. My professional services are person-centred, trauma-informed, diversity affirming, and might include practices and modalities like:

  • General psychotherapy and counselling.
  • Integrative and person-centred counselling
  • Embodied counselling.
  • Nature based therapy (walking).
  • Somatic work including movement based work.
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
  • Trauma-Focussed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (TF-ACT).
  • Breath work and mindfulness.
  • Psychoeducation and practices for coping with chronic pain, including the latest pain education.
  • Somatic and adult sex education, including consent and boundary psychoeducation.
  • Sensate focus tools.
  • Coaching for increasing body arousal and self pleasure,
  • Sexual facilitation: helping clients purchase sex toys or props, accessing sexual wellness contraceptive products and various types of lubrication. Educating clients about sex toys and hygiene.
  • Reporting back to your health care practitioner, and other referrals when required.

Interested in becoming a new client?

I’m currently open to new clients. If you’re interested in working with me, you can register as a new client and connect to my schedule*.

*I am a private practitioner. I am unable to accept Mental Health Care plans. Before registering, please check out my FAQs here for important information about my services.

Free 15 Minute Consult

When it comes to working together, I want you to feel confident that I’m an ok fit for you – after all, your health is an investment. So, before you decide to dive in, I offer a free virtual/telehealth consultation for people who are unsure about seeking help, or just wanting to get a feel for who I am. Feel free to register below and schedule time to see me.

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How I work with you

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Register as a new client. Connect to my schedule, find a time and day that works for you.

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We have a 1:1 discussion regarding your needs and goals for working with me. We learn about each other. We create a bespoke plan just for you.

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You delve into self-discovery, navigate transformative experiences, and take charge to improve your health and wellbeing.

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Testimonials

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Kai’s profound understanding and extensive knowledge of sex and sexuality gave me the confidence to openly discuss my shame around sensuality, sexual expression, intimacy and my body. In his unique intuitive way, Kai directed me away from the shame ingrained by a conservative upbringing, into the curious exploration of my sexuality.

Mr M.

I feel more in tune with my body even non-sexually, the breathwork has made me feel more connected to myself in everyday life and been a positive addition to my self-pleasuring as well. It was probably one of the easiest and most comfortable connections I’ve had talking with anyone.

She/Her Anonymous

I have benefited greatly from Kai's expertise, wisdom and body awareness. Trauma and chronic depression had significantly impacted my confidence; personally, and sexually. Kai has combined extensive knowledge, insight and great intuition to take me to a place I thought I could never return to.

Mr.R
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"Research shows telling people about pain isn’t helpful. But when we can sit, take time, listen and make sense together, when can really help people understand what’s going on, understand their pain, make useful and meaningful choices when it comes to treatment."

Tim Cocks

"Many of us tell ourselves that 'sex is not all that important to me', and then we immerse ourselves in substitutive activities. We plunge into all manner of heartless addictions or we become preoccupied with policing the sex lives of others. We even lose awareness of how disconnected we have become from our sensuality. We no longer recognise our own inhibition, nor do we see its roots in our unconscious shame and guilt."

Dr. Barnaby Barratt

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle,
known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.
These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and
an understanding of life that fills them with compassion,
gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

"At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us."

Albert Schweitzer

"We are taught to distance from sensations and the body, rather than living inside them. The distancing from lived experience, from feeling aliveness, also prepares us to be quick to objectify others and other types of life."

Staci Haines – The Politics of Trauma

"With all loss, and especially with ambiguous loss, the goal is to live with grief rather than close the door. We live with the lack of finality."

Pauline Boss & Donna Carnes - The Myth of Closure

"There is no way I'm ever telling people what I want because they will use it to hurt me - if this is your experience, there is healing to do to find and reveal what you authentically care about."

Staci Haines – The Politics of Trauma

"Mindful touch and movement grounds people and allows them to discover tensions that they may have held for so long that they are no longer even aware of them."

Bessel van der Kolk – The Body Keeps the Score

"When healing from trauma, we must also heal from shame."

Staci Haines – The Politics of Trauma

"As I like to say to people, "life sucks a good amount of time". We all have jobs and situations that are really unpleasant. But the moment that situation is over, its over. The problem with trauma is that when it’s over, your body continues to relive it."

Big Think - Bessel van der Kolk

"Nakedness can symbolise not only the truth of the matter but also the truth of self - psychological authenticity. The metaphor of stripping away implies an authentic self-clothed in cultural baggage or social roles."

Ruth Barcan - Nudity a Cultural Anatomy

“There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle because we do not live single-issue lives."

Audre Lorde

"Once, when undergoing a medical check-up, the doctor put me on a treadmill. "What are you measuring?' I asked him. 'How fast I can go, or how long?'. 'Neither', he replied. 'What I want to measure is, when you get off the machine, how long it takes your pulse to return to normal.' I realised that health is not a matter of never being ill. It is the ability to recover."

Jonathan Sacks

"Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and wounded. Its a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognise our shared humanity."

Pema Chodron

"You have the responsibility to show up to your life. You can't avoid it, in all its pain and beauty, by living in the past-personal histories and buried traumas matter, and they might inform the present."

Dr. Daniel N. Watter

“In order to see naturally, we must let go of our preconceptions as to what is ‘natural'."

Rose Cameron

"What doctors and therapists tell patients has a major influence on what patients believe and this influence can continue for many years and have an effect on recovery. The influence is powerfully negative."

Tim Cocks from the study of Ben Darlow et al.

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being."

Hafiz

"Empathy has no script. There is no right or wrong way to do it. It's simply listening, holding space, withholding judgement, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of 'You're not alone."

Brene Brown

"Our hearts are armoured against society. We cover our hearts to avoid suffering."

Ram Dass

"Your most personal experience is mirrored back to you, and you realise all at once that someone else had had the same thought. Suddenly and certainly, if only for that moment, you are a little less alone."

Dr. Daniel N. Watter

I work on traditional lands of the Kaurna people.

Acknowledging Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Trauma.

I am honoured to live, work and play on the lands of the Kaurna people. I acknowledge the deep scars inflicted by colonisation, understanding the profound impact of historical and cultural trauma. This declaration of acknowledgment goes beyond mere words. It emanates from a place of genuine empathy, a steadfast dedication to reconciliation, and a sincere commitment to healing. It is imperative to recognise that sovereignty was never willingly ceded; the vast lands of this country, remains and will always remain the sacred ancestral home of the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples.